Friday, 6 December 2013

Beauty on budget!

ARTICLE UPDATE FROM MAY 2013, CARDIFF TIMES


Long summer days are here and your skin and make up routine needs attention. Prepare yourself to look ravishing this summer… No matter how much you read about being beautiful in the heart, the worth of beautiful and healthy skin cannot be underestimated. So here are some 2013 summer treatments for all those awesome gals out there who got beauty with brains by saving hot cash from expensive salon trips to be spent on fab shoes and miniskirts.
Hair
Weather changes can have serious impacts on your hair. Since Cardiff had pretty cold March and April this year, the extreme hot water showers and high heat blow drying was daily routine for all. In the summers, you can see the impact of this hot torture on your hair in the form of dandruff, hair loss, dryness and split ends. A normal trip to Boots might help you get some hair treatments such as Regain and Macademia Hair Masks. But in case you do not want to spend a fortune in Boots and want to rescue your hair from cheap products, here are my beauty secrets.


Beer Bath for hair
I know it sounds gross but this one won’t let you down, it’s a promise and tested secret. Get a bottle of Peroni and relax. Fill the bath with your favorite bath salts and tie your hair. Gently pour half the bottle on your head giving it time to absorb on your scalp. Now play on some cool tunes and shut your eyes. After at least 15 minutes, when you are ready for head wash, flip open your hair and pour the rest of the beer to cover the lengths of your hair. Wait for a few minutes before you shampoo and condition as usual.
The malt will make your hair shiny, soft, voluminous and healthy!
Tip! A head massage before the beer rinse will be an add on to your routine. Repeat once a week.
Old but gold: GOLDEN HAIR MASK
Yes, yes we all know how protein packed is EGG and consumption can add to so many benefits. But direct raw egg can do wonders too.
In a plastic bowl, break a medium sized egg and keep the egg white aside in another bowl (will tell you later, why). If your hair is longer, take two egg yolks. Mix it well and add 5 tsps of green tea extract to your mixture. An easy trick is to boil some hot water and dip a green tea bag into it for few hours.
Apply this mixture with an applicator brush to your roots. Wait for an hour or more before washing off with your favorite shampoo.
This is direct protein intake for your roots and will give amazing results.

Face
After this long chilly weather, sunny days are really tempting to sit and relax and feel the sunshine on your face. UV rays can be harmful and can cause dryness, redness, oily pores and other skin conditions. You don’t need to go to Boots again and spend a fortune on skincare. There are a few things you can do to save the day!
Seasonal treasure: MANGO MASK
Although, globalization has made possible to get any fruit at any time of the year, anywhere in the world, there is still some pleasure in reaping the fresh fruit coming out of mother earth, rather than a tin can of the fruit bits stored in it for months. A mouth watering summer fruit from the hot part of the earth is MANGO. Make use of this Mango from your local grocery/fruit shop.
Mash half a mango into a paste. Add few drops of your favorite oil such as rose/coconut or argan. Mix well. Now add a few drops and lemon and Viola!!!!
Apply the mixture gently on your face and neck may be while your hair is soaked in beer. Wash off with warm water. Repeat the treatment once a week and WOW your friends with a mangolicious look this summer.
The leftovers: EGG WHITE MASK
While you made the egg yolk hair mask, I asked you to keep the egg white safe. Here is why…
Take egg whites in a small bowl and beat them until frothy. Add few drops of honey and lemon to the mixture. To end, add 2tbsp of Oatmeal or ground rice.
Apply the mixture on face and neck and wash off with warm water.
The benefits of this mask are better than commercial creams. It is used for skin tightening, exfoliating, cleansing and oil blotting.
Your pores will literally thank you for this one.

Body
It is hot and a great opportunity to wear minis, sleeveless and backless dresses. As much as you want to show off some skin, you may want to show the skin to die for! A trip to your local beauty salon can be helpful but in case you don’t want to spend a lot and be your own boss, here is an awesome idea…
Get some Epsom salts or brown sugar from your grocery or ebay. Take the quantity you want to use because this is a fresh mixture. Drizzle in some olive or coconut oil. Mix well. Mix in some ginger and lime, zest or grated. You can also add/replace orange, strawberry mash and honey. Apply the mixture to your hand and legs gently and rub off the dead skin cells to reveal a shiny baby soft skin to go perfect with those strappy stilettos.
Lips
I wouldn’t suggest making your own lipstick at home, but a lip scrub could be helpful to cure dry chapped lips. This season, popsicle lip shades are in so for this, you may want to visit Boots and find some candy shade lipsticks to complement with bright summer maxis and crisp white tops. Look out for color burst shades from Revlon.
It is easier to buy products from the superstore but the benefits of these homemade remedies are next to nothing. The ingredients are easy to find at home, you can treat yourself whenever you want to, for however long you want and still get those expensive high maintenance looks. It’s all in the details babe. Go homemade and see the difference.


 PUBLISHED IN CARDIFF TIMES, MAY 2013

Wednesday, 4 December 2013

What is LIFE?

Mai dekhti hu to sochti hu
aakhir kya zindagi hai
In naghmo ke shor me
Ye jhoomte hue logo ke qadam,
nashe me sharabor log,
jawani or daulat ke dhue me khoe hue,
Ya ek doosre ki baaho me
Zindagi ko batorte or choomte.....
Mai dekhti hu to sochti hu
kya ise zindagi kehte hain???
Agar haan, to usko kya kehte hain,
Jab aadmi sooraj ki neend se pehle uthta hai,
Kadi dhoop me din bhar pista hai
Or apna khoon paseena baha kar
Chaar paise sham ko ghar lata hai,
Ghar me intezar karti biwi ko dekhkar,
Pyar se uske hath me rakhta hai,
Vo sharma kar muskurati hai
Or agle din kuch behtar hone ki aas me,
Raat khamoshi se sojati hai!!!
Mai dekhti hu to sochti hu
Dono me se kisko zindagi kahu,
Ek taraf daulat ek taraf sukoon hai,
Akhir kisko khushi kahu???

Maine Hindustan chor kar bhi kaha chora...

Maine Hindustan chor kar bhi kaha chora,
Wo naata un hawao, fizao se kaha toda?
Jitni door tak, jaha bhi phaila hai aasmaan,
Sarhado ke paar bhi, Hindustan hi Hindustan...

Romantic Paris me Eiffel Tower ke neeche,
Punjabi Munday naqli Eiffel toer bechey!



London me Victoria Station ke har su,
Bas garma garam samoso ki khushbu!


Switzerland ki to har oonchi neechi pahadi pe,
Sridevi ki saree ka aanchal basey!


Mujhe yaad hai Italy me, Venice ki wo barsaat,
khud bheegta, chhatey bechta, bechara bangali zaat!


Birmmingham ki taxi, raaste suhaane,
uspe Sharukh- Kajol ke gaane!


Socha kuch to ajooba hoga Germany,
Munich me bhi Anarkali, disco chali...


Vo chooriyan, dupatte, kulfi samose or Sharukh Salman,
Aakhir kab door hua mujhse Hindustan???


Friday, 29 November 2013

What happened to my FAIRY TALE?

Tere dil me,
Mai apne,
Armaan rakh du.....
AA meri jaan, mai tujhme apni jaan rakh du!

Let me keep me desires in your heart,
Come my love, 
Let me keep my life in you...





Growing up as a girl, I was always a hopeless romantic. I used to write poems, dance in the rains, dream of a fairy tale... This song above, is from one of my all time favorite classic movies- Chaandni! Whenever I listened to this song, I would dream of singing this to my life partner, spend hours lying lazily in his arms and not worrying about the next moment. Dreams of welcoming him home like a Prince every evening and falling asleep on his chest without a care in the world.

Leaving school, the mad race for life began. There was literally NO TIME FOR LOVE. Go get a degree, follow your passion, get a job, earn money, make a living, pay the bills, make your family proud, invest, make a mark in the world... Time slipped like dry sand from my hands and the dreams are still dreams.

Then came a time when technically, I was supposed to chose a life partner, or at least that is what I felt from the pressing questions of friends and family members. But something else had happened by then. I had seen too much of pain and betrayal. I had seen bitter divorces and single parent families. The dreams do not seem real anymore. The hope that they could ever turn real has vanished. The thought that some guy in the world deserves that much of affection and love has died eventually.



The other sad fact is to find someone who fits into my puzzle. A person who enjoys romance; a guy who would feel happy to see a crazy love bitten cupid shot girl running around him singing songs from Yash Chopra films. I am a writer, it is easy for any man to understand me. Could there be someone who would understand me without words? My fairy tale does not have large palaces and golden chariots. Neither is there a large kingdom to be ruled or a lavish proposal expected.

All I needed is a crazy in love, honest and genuinely caring guy. I feel ridiculous when I hear from couples about who is boss in the house and domestic violence and husbands cheating or isolating their wives. Why dont people value what they have? I mean, seriously, is this what marriage is supposed to be? According to me, marriage was supposed to be being absolutely crazy and madly in love with each other; so much that you dont have time to think of who is the boss. Both partners ready to wipe each others feet and kiss them spending each and every moment of their life together like a prized bubble of oxygen bursting and getting closer to death. A relationship so pure and holy that I dont have to play tricks which other girls advice to play on men and the tips and advice you read in books to 'keep your men in line'.




I am all up for such books because from a psychological aspect they have gold worth knowledge hidden in them. But sadly, in my own fairy tale, the only book I ever want to consult is Ghalib's poetry so I read some for him and he would read some for me. Who needs to know whether your parents neighbor is still complaining about the food at the wedding reception and what does your banker say? Who is going to carry it all to the grave anyway?

I seriously don't know what happened to my fairy tale. Specially after I wrote my first book on breaking the chains of gender based violence and slavery, all I see is pain, tears of women who deserved love like me, who had dreams like I do, darkness engulfing their worlds because one drunk bastard could not control his nasty filthy mind, young girls who are supposed to enjoy life living under fear of strange guys chasing them.. I must ask, what happened to their fairy tales? They deserved guys who would cherish them untill death, but all they have is sorrow and loneliness. To make matters worst, society blames them.

I don't know what would be the next turn in my fairy tale and if ever it will be a full fledge tale to be told to my great grand kids by the cozy fire in the ice age (since the global warming) enjoying hot tea and onion bhajjis... But until then, I will do every possible thing I can, to help other women be able to live theirs and be with partners who wish to love and admire them. Say they are beautiful every morning and fall asleep in their arms.

Sayya ye bayya,
Zara thaam le tu,
Mooh se kisi cheez ka naam le tu,
Tere qadmo me saara jahaan rakh du,
AAmeri jaan, mai tujhme apni jaan rakh du!

O my darling, hold my hand,
Just name a thing, something that you want,
I will bring the whole world to your feet.
Come my love, 
Let me keep my life in you...



The LOOSER WRITER- Are you one?

Recently, I came across a rather unusual TED talk video. I am a big fan of TED Talk videos for many reasons and I love listening to scholars and accomplishers speaking about various issues. This particular video got my attention because it was rude, aggressive and straight in-your-face kind of truth revealed in 15 minutes.

The presenter of the video is Professor Larry Smith, an Economist who talks about Why you will fail to have a great career?


He is right! Most of us do fail. And the reason is simply because we do not want to pursue a dream or a passion but rather go-with-the-flow. As a writer, I feel this video is all the more relevant because unless you have a big, fat advance cheque for your upcoming book, you are basically putting all that hard work and effort in an empty box which has no worth. When it comes to writing, either you are passionate about it, or you are simply not a writer. You cant force it. Certainly, there are workshops and trainings to master the art and get better with words. But the actual fuel that keeps the flame burning is passion.


As a writer, yes it is difficult to survive, pay the bills, answer questions, explain to your partner or spouse  (if you have one) why you are awake until 5am and tell yourself that one day all this will make sense. You may see other friends and cousins your age getting married, earning a decent salary and buying a mortgage. And then you will doubt yourself and think why am I doing this? Will this ever lead to success? Am I a looser writer?

Professor Smith is right! Most people in the world do not follow their dreams or passion because they are lazy or they fear failure. To avoid humiliation, they find the least risky thing to do and go ahead. Dont you think, they are loosers? People who failed to find out the purpose of their life? People who did not do what they could have excelled at just because they feared downfall? So, the answer to the question in the last paragraph is NO- NO WRITER IS A LOOSER because you are following a dream and you must be proud of yourself for that.

Yes, big fat advance from a reputed publisher is delightful, but the lack of it does not make your ideas worthless. I call it the MBA Generation where we have turned noble acts of education and writing into money making professions. It is really sad that we have reduced priceless knowledge and scriptures to a product that can be bought and sold. I am sure economists would doubt my educational background at this point, but this is how the economy has worked and this is what pains me. Yet, I do not let it overwhelm me.

I began writing my first book when I was jobless, penniless and confined to bed with a chronic illness. Was I a looser? NO, because despite the obstacles I decided to write the book. When I told the closest of my friends about it, they wished me luck on my face but did not believe that I could actually do it. In fact, I wonder that as a child, I always was busy writing a poem or something in the corner of my classroom, at the terace of my home, without fear, and neither my parents nor any of my teachers ever asked me if I wanted to pursue writing.


India is one country where the only professions parents want their children to pursue are medical, engineering or chartered accountancy. Other than these, the recent education trend is the MBA. No matter what skills, no matter what interests, MBA is like peanuts, everyone has got one. From CEO to the salesmen at Big Bazar; every one is MBA! Interests in writing, painting, photography are only hobbies which do not lead to actual jobs and actual money- this is what children are told. And probably this is one reason why my teachers or parents never saw a writer in me! All the other kids who I went school with are medical doctors, every single one of them. Which is great; and also destined since their parents were doctors and honestly, the kids were not given much of a choice.

It is not just about writing. As Professor Smith says in his Talk, its all fine until the day when your kid turns up to you and says he wants to be a magician and you tell him that there is no money in the profession and then the kid says 'but Dad, its my dream'! And you say,
'kid, I had a dream too, but then you were born'.
'kid, I had a dream too, but I was too lazy to follow it'
'kid, I had a dream too, but I feared humiliation if I did not succeed'.
'kid, I had a dream too, but I had to be "normal",

OR

'kid, I had a dream too and I want you to follow yours, just like I followed mine'!

This is what life is all about. Only the one who does not follow his/her passion is a LOOSER! The world awaits and celebrates the birth of passionate people who actually move the earth and progress the society, generation after generation. The rest are just 'normal' people moaning about corruption and society. So, folks, who are you? It is never too late to pick up your passion and move ahead.


Enjoy the video here and let me know your thoughts on it. Share stories about your passion and struggle.

Are you going to fail?

Thursday, 21 November 2013

At Melissa's blog...

why?: Why Is There Violence Against Women?: It sickens me every time I hear about it. Yet it continues to happen. I entered a book contest and got a letter back from a lovely women...

Monday, 18 November 2013

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Hey SPARKLE Fan,
You showed interest and participated in the giveaway contest of my book. I want to thank you for that and inform you that although the giveaway is over now, you can purchase the paperback and ebook on a MASIVE DISCOUNT to celebrate the INTERNATIONAL DAY OF ELIMINATION OF VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN on 25th November. http://www.shahla-khan.com/apps/webstore/


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkIMLhEwqRo

I wish you all the best.
Regards and keep SPARKLING

Shahla